Have you ever clicked on an article with a good photo or a special title? What captures your attention and makes you read the entire article also works on dating sites or apps.
In many cases, you only have fractions of a second to make an impression and attract attention during the swipe marathon.
How do you make an impression on a dating portal? With the right username!
1. The Username Must Fit the Dating Portal
Some dating sites and apps only allow you to use your first name as a username, as information is often pulled from Facebook or other social media.
However, if you are on a site or app that allows you to create a unique username, make sure it is memorable. Also, change it from time to time to attract love as a fresh face or with a new slogan.
If you use Tinder, you must use your real first name. On other sites and apps, however, you can still create a username that defines your personality.
If you are on a site or app for religious users, a username that highlights your faith is not only appropriate but appreciated by potential partners. A good example would be “ChoirSinger” for a man or “WomanOfGod” for a woman if your goal is to find someone to go to church with on Sundays.
It would be a big mistake to name yourself “SexyMama” or “GoatCow” unless you are looking for something casual.
On most sites and apps, it is recommended to use your real name because authenticity is the focus. Still, you can choose a username that is creative and unique.
Confidence is the ultimate aphrodisiac in a dating profile, and appearance plays a role. But how do you express that in your username?
Some women know they can attract attention by being attractive both inside and out. Their confidence will be reflected in their username.
2. Be Confident and Attractive
Confidence has great appeal in a dating profile, and of course, appearance plays an important role. But how do you convey that in a username?
Some women know they can attract attention through their inner and outer attractiveness. Their confidence then clearly reflects in their username.
Men are drawn to profiles with usernames that convey attractiveness, such as “PrettyGirlBerlin,” “BlondeBeauty,” or “FunAndFit.”
Women, on the other hand, are more likely to click on profiles with names like “TallMan,” “SportsAce,” or “MarathonRunner,” which suggest that the user is physically fit.
3. The Right Keywords
Several studies have shown that certain keywords frequently appear in the most successful dating profiles on the singles market. So why not use one of them in your username?
When it comes to keywords, the desires of men and women are not so different, starting with the word “love.” Some popular keywords that men like are:
- Caring
- Easy-going
- Family
- Music
- Laughter
- Friendly
- Love
- Happy
- Interesting
Top keywords for women:
- Love
- Fun
- Friends
- Laughter
- Family
- Happy
- Friendly
- Honest
- Caring
In an ideal world, everyone would find someone who is nice, friendly, easy-going, happy, honest, and caring to fall in love with. However, the problem is that many men and women complain that all profiles look the same and descriptions do not attract enough attention in a crowded digital world. Here, your username can play a crucial role.
Good examples of usernames with these keywords are “MusicFan,” “HappyGirl,” or “Joyfulness” for women, and “FamilyMan,” “HonestGuy,” or “FriendsFirst” for men.
I used to use the username “GuitarMan” because I play the guitar. This name contained the keyword “music” and was a great conversation starter. Potential partners often wrote to ask if I was a music teacher, played in a band, or what my favorite song was—this got the conversation rolling.
4. Show Off Your Music Taste
Music is completely underestimated in dating. What’s the use of finding a partner with whom you can’t share your music? Let music speak in your username.
The best part is that you can prompt those viewing your profile to name the artist or the next line in the song. You’ll find that many quickly start a Google search to recognize the song. Some dating apps, like Tinder, even allow you to choose a title song, while other apps let you connect with your Spotify account.
5. Show That You Are Intelligent
While outer appearance often draws the initial attention, you need to hold your own in conversations and later at a personal meeting.
You don’t have to be a bestselling author, but it’s also important to highlight other qualities like intelligence.
6. Don’t Just Focus on Looks
If you are looking for a serious relationship, I strongly advise against choosing a username that defines your relationship based on attractiveness.
Some examples to avoid are “Sexy,” “Model,” or “MuscleMan”—all usernames I’ve seen in dating profiles. If you are interested in a casual relationship, be honest about it. Some appropriate usernames could be “CasualDater,” “SerialDater,” or “NoStrings.” Although you may not attract the most attention with these, you at least clearly show what you are looking for in case someone else has the same ideas.
7. Be Kind and Optimistic
Both men and women are looking for someone who is kind and does not have a negative attitude like a “Debbie Downer” or “Donnie Downer.”
To make your profile positive and optimistic, use some of these keywords. Examples that work for all genders are “KindAndCompassionate,” “Wholeheartedly,” or “Smile.”
8. What Activities Define You?
When I create usernames for singles on dating apps, I always ask about their passions outside of work. A potential partner should know that there is room for you in his or her life and what a possible shared weekend might look like.
Some usernames I’ve used and that have been very successful are “YogaCoach,” “Sunset,” and “PainterFriend.” All three people I advised in selecting these usernames are now in committed relationships. Their usernames attracted the right people who love yoga, nature, or painting classes.
9. Show Your Hobbies
A question I often ask singles is: Do you hike on weekends, run marathons, or volunteer for charitable causes?
The answers have led to some creative usernames, including “HHMarathonGuy,” “HikingInBavaria,” and “CharityWorker.” All these names made it easy for potential partners to approach the users and ask questions like: “Did you really run in the Hamburg Marathon?”, “What is your favorite hiking trail?”, or “Which charities do you support?”
10. Avoid Numbers
Nothing seems lazier than a username that consists only of your first name and a series of numbers. If you want to be taken seriously, a profile name like “Janet147190” sounds boring.
Instead, use your first name and perhaps a zip code that can be easily recognized by a single nearby who might be interested in dating someone from the area. A good example would be “Andrea80333” to indicate that you live in Munich, or “Stefan0711” showing that you are in Stuttgart. However, you shouldn’t do this with Frankfurt (069).